A space for what’s real
A practice of presence, reflection and shared humanity.
Withness is a new kind of community — a space to slow down and meet yourself with kind attention. It’s for those ready to listen inward, build trust with their own experience, and discover a more compassionate way of relating — to themselves and to others.
It’s not therapy. It’s not coaching.
It’s something older — and simpler: The quiet relief of learning to meet yourself exactly as you are. A space to be with all parts of yourself — in the company of another. The power of being seen with kind presence without pressure to explain, perform or be “fixed.”
What is Withness?
At its core, Withness is a peer-based practice of inner listening, kind presence and co-regulation.
Two people. A simple, guided structure.
One person turns inward and speaks from their felt experience.
The other listens — not to respond, but to reflect with care.
No advice. No analysis. No fixing.
Just presence — and reflection that helps you listen more deeply to yourself.
There are no experts, no hierarchies, and no one “in charge.” Everyone learns how to hold this kind of space through a short, accessible training.
It’s a practice — and a powerful one.
A way of befriending all parts of yourself, in the presence of another.
Want to get a better feel for what Withness is?
Download the Free Welcome Guide — a short eBook that shares the heart of this practice, the story behind it and how the training works.
Learning to be with the many layers of our inner world — the grief and the grace, the ache and the aliveness — without rushing to fix or escape, is a skill. One that transforms how we show up for ourselves and each other.
How it Works
Each Withness session is a 30-minute structured exchange between two people.
For the first 15 minutes, one person takes the role of the Focuser — gently turning inward and practicing being with whatever is present. That might include physical sensations, emotions, memories, images, or subtle shifts in energy or mood.
There’s no pressure to make sense of it.
No need to change or fix what arises.
The invitation is simply to be with what’s here — even the parts you usually avoid, and even the parts that wish those parts weren’t there.
The other person takes the role of the Reflector — offering warm, attuned reflections of what they’re hearing. Not advice. Not interpretation. Just presence — mirrored back in spacious, simple language that helps the Focuser feel met, supported, and not alone in their noticing.
After 15 minutes, you switch roles.
Over time, this simple practice becomes something much deeper:
A way of befriending your inner world.
A way of rebuilding self-trust.
And a way of remembering how to be with yourself — and others — with compassion and care.
Withness is opening soon, and we’d love to have you be part of it.
In a world that pulls us toward certainty, sides, and black-and-white thinking, a practice like Withness invites us back to nuance — within ourselves, and in one another. It reminds us how to make space for complexity, not just in our inner lives, but in the world we share.
Why it Matters
Most of us were never taught how to be with what we feel. We learned to manage it, suppress it, explain it away.
Withness invites something different:
A shift from judgment to curiosity.
From self-management to self-relationship.
From fixing… to befriending.
It teaches us how to listen inwardly — and how to hold space for others — in a way that brings relief, self-trust, and genuine connection.
As we practice being with all parts of ourselves — even the ones we’ve long avoided — we become more able to sit with the complexity in others.
Over time, we come to recognize that what we see in someone else is never truly separate from our own experience.
And from that place, connection becomes more honest, more embodied, and more human.
Withness is for you if you’re craving:
A more compassionate way of being with yourself
A space to slow down and hear what’s really true inside
A space where nothing needs to be fixed to be welcomed
Support that helps you trust your own inner knowing
We don’t have to fix ourselves to feel more whole — sometimes the most healing thing is simply being with what’s here, just as it is.
Coming Soon
Withness is opening later this year. Want the full story and an early invite? Get the Welcome Guide and join the list below.